I never know what I am going to write for the newsletters until I sit down at the computer. I often think about conversations I’ve had with my family, friends, or clients and draw inspiration from there for the newsletter. March 8th I celebrated my 50th birthday and during Bootcamp this week we kicked off my birthday celebration TFC style. We dressed up in 70s attire, we laughed and danced for the birthday chick, and after I wiped my last tear of joy a dear client shared something with me that resonated in my soul. This client has been with me for 5 years said, “You have more years behind you than you do before you so live every day in happiness and with a purpose”
I couldn’t get it out of my mind! I began thinking about all the
great life lessons. I thought about what I’ve learned over those past years and thought I would share some with you in hopes that some will help you along your life’s journey.
1. A lesson from my mother- It’s hard to get 3 things back once you lose them. Your credit, health and your word. She was a stickler for teaching us to pay our bills on time, maintaining good health and always being honest even if it kills us, and sometimes it nearly did. LOL
2. Comes from my mother- Always pay your tithes! Even if you only have two pennies to rub together, pay your tithes. A young girl I was mentoring came to my home I built 17 years ago. She asked me, “How did you do this on your own?” I said, “I didn’t , I paid my tithes” All blessings come from above.
3. Love yourself always. God makes no mistakes. You were made perfectly and wonderful in His eyes, it’s up to you to believe it and live it.
4. Invest time, energy and money in yourself every day. – When you invest in yourself, you can never lose and over time you will change the trajectory of your life. You are simply the product of your actions.
5. Journal. Keep a pen by your bed at night and jot down those thoughts that come to mind. When I dream which is often, I like to think its Gods way of talking to me, guiding me and comforting me. I often wake up with new ideas for my business, a creative exercise or just personal confirmations He gives me.
6. A lesson from my mother- People are not mind readers. Tell them what you’re thinking. People will never know how you feel unless you tell them. It’s as simple as that. A closed mouth will never get fed.
7. Make swift decisions and take immediate action. – Either you’re going to take action and seize new opportunities, or someone else will take the opportunity first. You can’t change anything or make any sort of progress by sitting back and thinking about it. Remember, there’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it. Knowledge is basically useless without action.
8. A lesson from my mother- “And this too shall pass”, before there was a novel, my mother often repeated it. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. So embrace change, and realize that change happens for a reason. It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.
9. Live a comfortable life, not a wasteful one. Do not spend to impress others. Do not live life trying to fool yourself into thinking wealth is measured in material objects. Manage your money wisely so your money does not manage you. Always live well below your means. Meaning don’t be house poor or car poor.
10. Get your passport! Travel outside of the country at least once a year. If you stay stuck in the same town you will miss out on some of the best life lessons that will make you search your soul while seeing the world.
11. Learn to be quiet and to be alone at times. With quiet, you can hear your thoughts, you can reach deep within yourself, and you can focus on mapping out the next logical, productive step in your life. You often hear God’s voice when you are quiet.
12. Don’t worry too much about what other people think about you. – For the most part, what other people think and say about you doesn’t matter. Don’t let people’s opinions of influence your decisions, most people speak out of fear anyway. What they think and say about you isn’t important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.
13. Be respectful of others and make them feel good. – In life and business, it’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel. So respect your elders, minors, and everyone in between. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandmother and the same level of patience you would have for a baby. Supporting, guiding, and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. In order to get you have to give.
14. Excel at what you do. There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t going to do it right. Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies. Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence.
15 Let down your guard- To have a true friend you must first be a true friend.
16 This is easy- Laugh often and when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change. Life is short, yet amazing. Enjoy the ride.
16. Pray often and always keep God first! Prayer moves the arm that moves the world.
My birthday wish is for everyone to truly love themselves unconditionally. Every flaw, extra curve, every failure and every mistake. If you fall, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep it moving. Be No Mess
