Hello All, I have returned to Tadda’s Fitness post-surgery, I am still recovering so I am not working out. However I stay busy providing all of our wellness services to our clients; IV therapy, Vitamin B12 injections, Blood type testing, and cholesterol testing to name a few. I am also consulting with clients about their blood lab work, body scans and meal planning. These are a few of the comment’s clients have shared with me:
As I was performing an A1c (diabetic) test on a client, she starts to pre-warn me as the timer is counting down to the results that “it’s going to be high, that’s just how I am”. I asked her when she was diagnosed with diabetes, she stated 4 years ago. I asked her because I wanted to know if she was type 1 or type 2 diabetic. Type 2 diabetic is usually caused by a person’s choice of lifestyle from unhealthy eating to lack of activity. When I asked her about eating certain foods, drinks etc., she quickly stated that she eats fast food most of the time and drinks almost a liter of soda a day.
Another client asked me how to get rid of her stomach fat, “I have tried everything, and I guess this is just how I am”. I asked her does she do abdominal exercises on her own on a regular basis outside of her training sessions. She stated no. I asked has she cut out all white breads, rice, pasta, sugar etc. She stated not exactly.
As I was going over a client’s Fit3D body scan the first view is a full 3D of the person spinning around, she immediately said, “Ughh that’s me, I’ve been the same way for years, I will always look like the Michelin man, rolls and all, that’s just how I am”. I asked this client when the last time she had worked out. She stated about 2-3 years ago.
All three of these clients have the same thing in common, they complain about something they want to change speak negatively about it, but have thrown in the towel when it comes to fixing it. They have accepted that “how they are” is “how they will be”. If they believe this, then they are correct, they will always be how they are! If they want to see change then they must think, speak, feel and do different.
We expect people to walk into a room, receive information, apply it to their life, see changes and feel different. If only life were that simple. I have come to realize that feeling is the most important part of the equation. However, feelings are the last to change. Too many of us get stuck in the “This is who I am” feeling, basically preventing all progress. So here are some steps to help change how you feel, so you can realize you’re not too far from where you want to be when effort is exerted.
- Break the silence: Shame keeps a lot of people from “fessing up” about their negative feelings. Sharing with others and finding you are not alone in your journey can be tremendously freeing.
- Develop healthy responses: Instead of beating yourself up for falling short, not looking like how you want; speak positive to yourself. Look at your failures/setbacks as opportunities to improve. No one is perfect. We will always have something to work on as long as we have breath in our bodies.
- Visualize success: Do what professional athletes do. Put together a plan and stick with it for success. Write out a training schedule (we do that for you at TFC), get out of their comfort zones (if you are on yellow team workout with the orange team), endure the soreness (I suggest massages and stretching), and plan their recovery. During the process they spend time picturing themselves making a successful transformation inside and out before the big win happens.
- Reward yourself: Break the cycle of continued negative self-talk and dismissal of your hard work when you don’t see the results you want right away. Stop seeking validation outside of yourself, learn to pat yourself on the back for all victories large and small, along the journey.
- Normalize “I’m willing to work on it”:When we normalize this we are saying, I am not perfect, I have issues, I am human, I am willing to work on my flaws and imperfections, I am No Mess!
If you follow these 5 simple steps, you will begin to see the results you are looking for you! No Mess!
